There’s no way around it: breakups suck. Everyone experiences some kind of heartbreak at some point in life. Zendaya hands out some top notch advice on getting over heartbreak via her app.
In a post called “How I Survived a Broken Heart,” Zendaya opens up about what helped get her through a rough breakup last year. Instead of dwelling on it, Zendaya encourages you to be open, try new things, and finally have that ritual burning of all their pictures that you’ve been dreaming of. That’s what Zendaya said she did after her split.
“I started forcing myself to have a lot more fun. I tried new things — going out and just doing more stuff,” Zendaya wrote. “A healthy relationship does not mean you need to be with that person 24/7.”
This is such good advice. As Lorelai Gilmore taught us, it’s important to wallow after a break up. You need to sit down with that tub of ice cream and truly feel your feelings. But, it’s easy to get too caught up in this and next thing you know you haven’t gotten out of bed in days and your friends are begging you to at least change your pajamas. This gets you nowhere. Once you’ve given yourself a night or two to really feel bummed, it’s time to get on with the damn thing. Go try a new yoga class, grab a friend and get some coffee, set up a dinner date with your best girlfriends, basically do anything that gets you out and distracts you from the break up. It might not feel great to be out at first, but the more you do it the more you’ll realize that you are honestly better off without that old relationship dragging you down. You might even develop a new hobby or healthy habit as a result!
While you’re busy with your new, fabulously busy life, Zendaya says it’s also a good idea to get rid of the relationship baggage you’re holding on to.
“I got rid of old text messages, pictures and their clothing I still had. You don’t hang on to old Band-Aids. Throw that in the trash!” she says. “You have to get rid of everything associated with them. It’s best to get rid of their number. Or if you can’t quite let go, at least change the title of their name in your phone.”
We’re all guilty of keeping that one t-shirt or cute text for memory’s sake. But if we’re honest with ourselves, it’s doing us no good. It’s nice to remember the good times with an ex, but that can only really happen once you’ve truly moved on. Hanging on to reminders of what once was makes that moving-on process last much longer, and it’s just no fun. Zendaya wrote that getting over a break up definitely isn’t easy, but if you can cut ties, you can get to the carefree phase that getting over your heartbreak eventually brings.
So, if you’re going through a rough breakup, know that you’re not alone. It hurts, it’s sad, and it’s not fun, but as cliche as it sounds, time will make it better. In the meantime, take Zendaya’s advice. If there’s one good thing about breaking up, it’s the fresh possibility that comes with being un-tethered. You can do whatever you want whenever you want. So get out there. You never know what you might find.
